Why video calls can leave you anxious and exhausted

Video chatting helps us stay connected with loved ones and can even create more job opportunities. So why do so many of us find it المواقف المجهدة and tiring?

In today's remote work era, we inevitably spend far more time in virtual than in real life meetings than we used to. This can take its toll on our well-being. Firstly, there are sound issues, glitches and screen freezes to contend with, as well as the urge to fill any silences when you're staring at people on a screen.

For those of us working from home, we might also feel pressured to accept every video invitation or phone call.

"Zoom fatigue is doing nothing for my القلق," says Hayley Smith, who works in PR. "At first, I found them really productive, as I wasn't spending time travelling to meetings and felt like it was streamlining my workload. But people are starting to want calls for everything."

Virtual communication

"Until recently, many of us only took part in video calls very occasionally. But we now use them on a regular basis - and it's challenging to navigate a form of communication that until the last few years was unfamiliar," says Emma Russell, a reader in occupational and organisational psychology at the University of Sussex.

"Negotiating a new medium for communicating with people - as per video calls – is effortful and can be resource depleting," she explains. "We are working out the new social etiquette, how to be effectively heard, how to ensure we stay on top of the video meeting, how to speak up without being rude and even whether to make eye contact."

Russell also says we need to regulate ourselves in a different way when video calling. This might mean thinking twice about actions we normally do at home - for example, scratching ourselves - because other people might see us.

"We are attending to a number of faces staring right at us, and our face is also on screen for all to see," Russell adds. "It can be very draining to be paying attention to how people see us and how they view our reactions."

A significant proportion of how we communicate is non-verbal. The way we move, hold ourselves and our facial expressions convey a lot of information - and these cues can be harder to read via virtual chat, which can lead to video call exhaustion.

"In the online domain, we can no longer rely on our innate, instinctive abilities to assess the situation via non-verbal language such as body language and social cues," says psychologist Charlotte Armitage, a member of the British Psychological Society.

"As a consequence, we have to adapt our style of communicating," she adds. "This process requires the use of additional psychological resources to accurately convey our own message as well as to interpret and understand the messages from the other individual."

If we are physically on camera, we are very aware of being watched. "Seeing ourselves on screen can make us self-conscious. It can trigger anxiety from two angles: the judgement of ourselves, and the social judgement of others - whether it be how we look, or how we perform," says Lee Chambers, an environmental psychologist.

And for those who already struggle with anxiety over social situations, taking part in a video call can be even more intimidating.

"Social phobia is also incredibly common. What this tells us is that any form of social or public display - especially in an unfamiliar situation - is likely to lead to some anxiety," says Professor Thomas Hills from the department of psychology at the University of Warwick.

"For many of us video calls are a new form of communication, a bit like standing up in front of the classroom. It's just going to feel uncomfortable for that reason alone."

For many, working from home has blurred the boundaries between our professional and personal lives, which can make it harder to switch off from work and relax.

"Being anxious is a fundamentally tiring process," Armitage says. "When we have a baseline level of anxiety, it requires extra psychological processing and makes functioning in normal daily activities much more demanding. This in itself may be making us feel anxious at the idea of engaging in video conferencing."

That being said, video calls can be a good way to keep in touch with others if loneliness is affecting our well-being.

So what can we do to reduce anxiety when connecting virtually?

Avoid back-to-back calls

Firstly, it’s important to avoid doing video calls back-to-back, if possible.

"This is draining because we tend to be stationary on these calls, and give ourselves less chance to recover from each exchange," says Russell. "The constant switch of attention from topic to topic, from meeting to meeting, with fewer breaks, fewer chances to get up and walk about can be tiring."

Spend time away from your computer

It's important to take breaks from your computer, as too much screen time can negatively affect your sleep.

Going outside for a walk or getting fresh air can help reduce feelings of anxiety. If you're confined to the home, closing your laptop and doing something else - stretches or a workout video - can be a good break.

“Practise deep breathing and ensure that you have enough time away from your computer screen by going outdoors for exercise," Armitage says.

Set rules

It can also help to set rules and codes of social etiquette for a work video call, so people don't have to worry about how to act.

"Managers or hosts could give people permission to turn off camera-sharing for periods within the meetings, so attendees can have a rest from constant self-regulation and have a chance to stand up, stretch out and move about," Russell says.

If you're not presenting or speaking, try turning off your video and microphone. "Passive social monitoring is much less fatiguing than active social engagement," Hill adds.

Reduce awkwardness

"It helps to take the perspective of the people on the other side of the camera. Greet them, smile, say something nice like you normally would," Hill says. "To make video calls more familiar, we have to make them more human."

If you are struggling with your الصحة العقلية, you should contact your doctor for advice on the best course of action for you. If you think you might be struggling with social anxiety, talking therapy might be able to help. You can book private video counselling sessions via Patient Access. The mental health charity Mind also has some very useful advice.