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Amid the ongoing pandemic too, many people are struggling with grief, financial instability and social isolation. So how can you cope with loneliness over the holidays?

"For a start it is impossible to avoid the عيد الميلاد period, so it exacerbates the emotional and physical pain people experience on a daily basis," says Counselling Directory member Dee Johnson.

"The pressure and expectation to be full of fun and happiness, surrounded by loved ones, can be crushing. Adverts and programmes imprint messages that the festive season is about reaching out, having loving connections, bonding and supporting."

There are many reasons for loneliness around the holidays, including bereavements, family disputes, lost relationships, loss of income or physical and mental health problems. All of these are exacerbated this year because of regulations and concerns around COVID-19.

"Mental health disorders are a major contributing factor: الاكتئاب, agoraphobia, اضطرابات الأكل, اضطراب الوسواس القهري, addictions, القلق, to name a few," Johnson says. "The immense difficulty of dealing with this may drive someone to avoid and detach, causing more loneliness, shame and guilt because they cannot face having to pretend they are OK. It can be literally too crippling and overwhelming."

It's also important to remember that loneliness doesn't necessarily mean someone is physically isolated. "Domestic abuse - including coercive control - or being in the depths of الاكتئاب and battling internal demons, are all fearful, empty places," Johnson adds.

Why Christmas 2020 may be especially difficult

Being physically and emotionally connected to others is vital to sustaining our mental well-being, but 2020 has changed things drastically. We haven't been able to see family and friends, many of us have been working from home and we've not been able to do our usual social activities.

And for many, Christmas will be a difficult reminder of the loved ones we've lost during the pandemic. The economic fallout of كوفيد-19 has made life extremely hard for a lot of people - and it's likely many of us won't be seeing family like we normally would.

According to a استطلاع of UK adults which took place during lockdown, one in four said they had feelings of loneliness in the 'previous two weeks'. Last year, Campaign to End Loneliness reported there were nine million lonely people in the UK before the pandemic - a figure that is likely to have risen significantly since restrictions came in.

"In order to protect and help each other survive, we have had to disconnect from each other - going against our nature, drives and desires," Johnson explains. "People with mental health battles that already dictate loneliness are really struggling. Webcam meet-ups, hangouts, quizzes have been great, but as pack animals we need stronger connection that binds and bonds us.

"Being lonely destroys self-worth, confidence and sense of purpose, and can often bring a sense of shame for being in this situation," Johnson adds. "So it becomes impossible, embarrassing to ask for help or admit the problem."

How to cope with loneliness

Don't be afraid to speak up

Speaking to trusted friends, relatives or co-workers about how you feel can often lift the weight off your shoulders and help you feel less isolated. "The very act of starting by telling one person can set you on the right path. Just hearing yourself say it means you have already started connecting," Johnson says.

"Reaching out to people is so easy to say and so scary to do. If you can think of just one person you know that you can speak to about how much you are struggling, do it."

Say yes to things

When we feel lonely, it can be easy to slip into the habit of saying no to social activities. Loneliness can make it hard to feel motivated or energetic - and the thought of seeing people can lead to anxiety.

Johnson advises starting to say yes to activities and building up your confidence. Even going for a short walk with a friend and a takeaway coffee can make a huge difference to your well-being. Pick up the phone and have a chat with someone you've been meaning to contact.

"Try not to hide behind social media connections too," she adds. "You still need to physically see or speak to people too. Try not to always text, but to talk instead."

Engage in self-care

Loneliness can lead to low mood, anxiety and other mental health issues, which can make day-to-day activities like showering seem impossible. It's important to go easy on yourself and take things one step at a time.

Looking after yourself can be especially hard for someone who is grieving the loss of a loved one. Make time for the things you enjoy, like reading, walking or التمارين - and give yourself a break if you need to.

Remember you aren't alone

No matter what you're going through, it's essential to remember that you aren't alone. "We can all play a part by smiling or saying hello to someone, chatting in supermarket queues or making light conversation with strangers," Johnson says. "It may be the first conversation they have had in a long time." Just remember to stay socially distanced from people outside your household and wear a mask where required to protect yourself and those around you from COVID-19.

Think about people you haven't connected with for a while and make the effort to get in touch. Someone may be struggling in secret - and a quick chat can make a huge difference.

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It can also help to see your GP if loneliness is affecting your mental health. They may recommend talking therapies such as counselling to help build your self-worth, and to help you find coping strategies or process any issues.

If you're struggling with grief, grief counselling can be a helpful way to process loss. Your GP will be able to advise on the best course of action for you, but you can also access support via organisations such as Cruse Bereavement Care. Local services and mental health charities can provide confidential advice and support too.